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There will be a time, one day when you are not expecting it, that you will receive a mean comment. No matter how well prepared you think you are, it will knock the wind out of you. It has the power to ruin your day, as well as damage your confidence.
So, how do you deal with mean comments?
I wish I knew the magic solution. I’ve got a great support system of people who love my blog, so when I get a mean comment I’ll try to go back and read all the nice comments I’ve received. Also, I try to keep notes like this in mind:
I use to leave every comment, nice or mean, on my blog. I felt like if I removed mean comments then my blog wouldn’t be authentic. I wanted to keep a forum of open mindedness where people can say whatever they want to say.
However, one thing I’ve learned, that I wish I would have learned sooner, is that there’s a difference between constructive criticism and people just being downright mean. I’ve decided the best way to deal with mean comments is to just remove them and give them no credibility. If you are being mean just for the sake of shaking my confidence and being mean, then your comment will be removed.
Your blog is exactly that… YOURS. I consider my blog my online home. I would not let a mean person into my real home, so why would I let them into my online home?
So that is how I deal with mean comments. They are outta here!
But how do you deal with the hurt they cause?
I’d be lying if I said there will ever be a day when a mean comment wont sting. It’s how you choose to deal with the comment that you have control over. I try to remind myself that an anonymous person online means nothing to me. The people’s opinions that I care about are the ones who lift me up and support me.
Also, I try to stop for a moment, and decide right then and there to have a good day. You didn’t have a choice about receiving the mean comment, but you certainly have a choice in how you receive the comment. Just try to keep reminding yourself that you are enough. You are important. You are worth it. Choose to have confidence in yourself.
And if all else fails, call up your best friend and have a good cry. Then choose to move on. Choose to be awesome.
And then remind yourself that people that leave mean comments are just ass holes. That always makes me feel better.
And now, some blogging tips to help each of you be a better blogger:
* What advice would you give other bloggers who are completely or relatively new?
* HoH: Everyone says to be patient and just take it slow. Your time will come. However, that is not how I felt when I was starting out! I wanted my blog seen. I wanted to be popular… like, NOW. Not in 6 months. I wanted it now. So I don’t give that advice. What I say is if you want it now, work for it and make it happen! You are in control of your own destiny. Don’t sit around and wait for someone else to make your blog popular. Here are my quick tips on getting your blog noticed now:
- Link Parties. I’ve said it 100x and I’ll say it another 500. Participate in Link Parties. Find every single Link Party, big or small, in your niche, and enter them every single week. And don’t just link up. Link up FIRST. Be in the first 5-10 links and you will see crazy traffic.
- Guest Blog. Find blogs that frequently have guest bloggers. Apply to guest blog on their site. Email them and ask them. Email other bloggers that don’t usually have guest bloggers and ask them too. The worst they will say is no. IF they say yes, make a killer guest post. Save your very best craft or project and use it as your guest blog post. If you want their readers to come to your blog and follow you, you have to wow them with great content on the guest blogs site.
- Submit your posts. There are many blogs online that feature other peoples blogs. They are called Curator blogs. Find them and email them your posts! There is no shame in asking to be featured. If you don’t ask, they may never know about your blog. Introduce yourself to them and offer up some great posts. Chances are they will feature you if you ask.
- Leave comments on other people’s blogs. Make sure they are genuine and that you have actually read their post. Sign it with your name, then the @ sign, then your blog name. ex: Allison @ House of Hepworths. Other readers notice comments and will click through.
- Last but not least, don’t give up. Hang in there. Keep up with it. Be bold and brave. If you love blogging, do it for no one but yourself. Others will be able to see in your writing that you love it, and they will be inspired.
This post was originally a guest post for my friend Tara over at TaraDara.