Goodbye little Jedi Max

Almost three weeks ago I shared my friend’s son Max with all of you.

He has been battling brain cancer for a year.

He fought a long hard fight. He never gave up.

He passed away yesterday.

Many of you reached out and sent post cards to Max when his “last wish” trip to Paris was canceled last month. Thank you. I know that Jay and Scott appreciate every last card and note sent to Max. It certainly brightened the last few weeks of Max’s life. He passed away knowing that the entire world loved him.

Please take a moment to post a quick note and virtual hugs to the family via their Jedi Max facebook page. I know they would appreciate the hugs and support.

I would like to share their PO Box with all of you again, just in case you would like to send a note to Jay and Scott and their 6 year old daughter Katie. There is absolutely nothing that will heal a broken heart from the loss of a child, but a kind note from a caring stranger might help to lift them up and brighten their spirits.

Send condolences here:

Jay and Scott Simmons
P.O. Box 690309
Killeen, TX 76549

Also, if you would like to donate any money, click here (please do not feel pressured. Jay doesn’t even know I’m posting this.)

Here is the Jedi Max blog that Jay has updated for the past year.

Here is a beautiful video about Max.

Max was an amazing kid who lived a beautiful and selfless life. He touched countless other people’s lives and will never be forgotten.

Funeral Services for Max will be held:

Monday, May 27, 2013 @ 1 p.m.
at Cook-Walden Funeral Home
14501 North IH-35
Pflugerville, TX, 78660
512-251-4118

If you attend services, please do NOT wear black. We would love for you to wear something bright and cheery. We are not mourning Max’s death, but rather celebrating the life he lived.

If you cannot attend the services but would like to do something to remember or pay respects to him, we ask that you take a moment of your time on Monday and release some blue balloons. Also, if you could post a picture on Team Max, they would appreciate it.


     

Follow-up to my “ping pong emotions” post

I really don’t like having too many overly-wordy posts back-to-back (especially emotionally draining ones!) so after this follow-up post I will be posting a new post with lots of pictures. It will go up around 7am tomorrow morning (Tuesday) so make sure you check back in the morning for a fun new post.

Hey guys! Wow, last week I was a mess, wasn’t I? I wrote a very long, very raw post about freaking out about moving and considering moving back. After reading all your amazingly kind and supportive comments and really thinking about the Hepworth future all weekend, I am happy to report that I am happy and I know moving to the new house was absolutely the right decision.

You all are seriously amazing. Your advice and support and virtual hugs were exactly what I needed to calm my nerves. Who needs a therapist when I have all of you?! Your comments, suggestions, and advice were spot on and exactly what I needed, so THANK YOU!

I will admit, I am pretty embarrassed now that I had such a public meltdown (at least there wasn’t any head-shaving or beating things with an umbrella), but what I’ve learned (and hopefully you have too) is that no matter what you are going through, no matter how isolated you feel, you are not alone. I had no idea that my freak-out was “normal”. I thought I was totally neurotic and nuts-o for reacting like that about moving. Posting about it made me feel very vulnerable and exposed, but in doing so I realized that many of you also went through the same thing. Realizing I wasn’t alone really helped to calm my fears.

One thing I did that really helped me zero in on what my real issue was was to break it down into little chunks. I started from the beginning and asked myself basic questions.

“Should I have sold my other home? Yes. I feel good about that.”

“Do I like the new house we bought? Yes, I love it.”

“Do I like the new yard? Yes.”

“Am I happy with the new school district? Yes, I am very happy.”

“Do I mind driving 20 minutes to get to stores? No, I don’t mind driving that far.”

“Do I like the neighborhood? Well… I’m not convinced. But I think I can like it.”

Breaking the entire situation up into little pieces really helped me narrow down what my issues are so that I could focus on them and talk them out with Ben.

After a weekend long therapy session in the form of reading 75+ awesome comments I’m happy to report back that I am doing well and am overall still excited about the move.

What I’ve learned?

No matter what you are going through, you are never alone in it.

I was/am grieving about my old house. As much as I’m ready to move on to a new chapter, I hadn’t allowed myself to say goodbye to the old chapter. It all hit me at once and I was forced to deal with it.

I still have the same friends. They now live 20 minutes away. I think the lure of this great big backyard and all these fun toys will bring many of them out here for some kick-@$$ parties. Plus, now I get to make even more new friends! And as you probably know, I love talking and meeting people, so I’m excited about all the new people I get to meet.

Every female over 30 is considered pre-menopausal. Who would have thought?. Maybe my emotions are hormonal. haha Wow I feel super-old even writing that out on my blog. I’m only 32!

I don’t regret buying this house and moving. Most of my emotions were fear. I am usually a take-the-bull-by-the-horns type of person, but for some reason with this move I was terrified. I didn’t realize I was terrified, I just thought those feelings were regret. I’ve never lived in an area like this, and even though I’m stinkin’ excited, I am equally petrified.

So again, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. I love sharing tutorials and little tips and tricks I’ve learned about being a home owner, but I also equally love all the knowledge I gain from each of you. Some of the best advice I’ve ever received is written within the comments section on this blog. You guys always help me way more than I can ever teach you. Here’s some big fat bear {{HUGS}} for each of you.


     

Your questions answered about the new house!

You guys, we bought a new house! And y’all sure are nosey. I am here to answer all your questions and to give you all the details (or at least as many as I feel comfortable sharing online). I’m glad you asked questions because sometimes it’s hard for me to remember every detail that you might be curious about. So here goes nothing…

Q: How many square feet is your new house? How many was the old house?

A: The new house is approximately 2,800 square feet. The old house was about 3,650 square feet. We shaved off about 850 square feet when we purchased this new house. We lost a bedroom and a dining room. And before you ask, yes, we sold the dining room furniture. No room for it here!

Q: How old is this house?

A: The house was built in 2000. It’s new enough to have good bones but old enough to need updating.

Q: How much land is the new house on?

A: The new house is on a little over an acre! Our kids are in heaven. The yard needs tons of TLC though and a fence, so we have a long road ahead of us.

Q: Does the house have a garage?

A: Yes, the house has a two car garage. It’s a side-entrance one so it was hard to see in the first photo I shared.

Q: Can we see the frontyard?

A: Yup. The house has a U-shaped driveway with a grove of awesome climbing trees out front. The kids absolutely love it.


Q: Can we see the backyard?

A: Sure! Most of our property is in the backyard and side yard. The house came with an awesome deck off the back of the house, swingset, fort, two sheds, an above-ground pool with a deck surround, and a half-court basketball court. The yard and “toys” are all in rough shape though, so they will need lots of love and care from us. Eventually some day we’d love to take down the above-ground pool and deck surround and put in a real in-ground pool.

Q: What type of flooring does the new house have?

A: The new house has four types of flooring: hardwood, tile, vinyl, and carpet. The family room and piano room have hardwood. All the other open areas have tile. The bedrooms and game room have carpet. The office has vinyl. I will do a separate flooring post soon so stay tuned.

Q: Are you in the same school district?

A: Unfortunately, no. We are close enough though that the kids will finish out the current year at their current school. In the fall they will start in the new district. After lots of research, we are in one of the top rated districts in Texas which is primarily why we chose this area to move to as opposed to other more rural areas.

Q: I thought you weren’t going to be able to move for at least another year?

A: I have only mentioned this detail in the comments section or through email exchanges, but for those who know our situation, Ben is an Independent Consultant and is a 1099 employee. Because of new laws regarding Fannie Mae, in order to qualify for a home mortgage if you are a 1099 you need two years of tax returns. We only have one (he’s been Independent for about 16 months now). We thought we’d have to wait until at least April 2014 before we could get a new mortgage but after shopping around for quite awhile we found a local bank who was willing to assume the risk and give us a mortgage with them in-house.

Q: Any sadness at all moving out of the other house? Or was it like when you got rid of the van?

A: LOTS of sadness. I was so excited to move into this new home, and within a few hours of signing on the new mortgage I literally had a full-blown panic attack. I then proceeded to be hysterical for the next three days. I’m nothing if not dramatic. It was the exact opposite reaction I thought I’d have. I don’t know where this reaction came from, but my husband probably thought I had lost my marbles. I even had a day when I tried to talk Ben into selling the new house and backing out of our contract on the old house. Ben, our realtor, and my neighbor had to talk me off a cliff. It was probably the most upset I’ve ever been in my entire life. After Ben agreed that we’d move into the house on a “trial” basis I was able to calm down. Now that I am officially moved I LOVE the new house and never want to move!

I think the idea that I was leaving my old neighborhood, old friends, old school, old community, and everything familiar to me hit me all at once once the papers were signed. And I just totally flipped out. This transition was not easy, but it was so worth it. I love my new home!

Q: Can we see a floor plan?

A: I would love to show you a floor plan but I seriously suck at those online floor plan makers. I have it drawn out on paper with a sharpie so I’ll scan that in and show you as soon as I can find my scanner.

Q: Are you going to do the same color scheme you did in the first house?

A: I am undecided. I am definitely not doing the butter yellow again even though I love it. I really love the gray undertone though instead of a tan one, so I’m conflicted. I will probably go with gray again but will choose a different shade that has more of a taupe undertone.

Q: Is the new neighborhood far from the old house?

A: We are about 20 minutes away from the old neighborhood. In order to get an acre of land and save money on the mortgage we had to go a little further out from the city center.

Q: Is there a Basement? An Attic?

A: The house does not have a basement. Most homes in Texas don’t because the water table is too high or because there’s too much limestone. Yes, the house has an attic. The A/C unit is up there. We probably won’t use it for anything though except storing random stuff.

Q: You already moved in? did you sell house #1 yet?

A: We just moved in on Saturday. The house is such a disaster from moving that I feel like I live in an episode of Hoarders. House #1 is under contract. The buyers will sign the final closing papers in about a week.

Q: Dana from House*Tweaking bought a smaller fixer-upper last year. Are you copying her? Young House Love just bought a new house too.

A: Seeing Dana downsize to a smaller house to save money and to help her family feel more unified definitely was inspiring for me. That is when the idea started mulling in my mind. We originally were looking at houses around 1900-2000 sq ft, but this 2800 sq ft house popped up and we just had to jump on it. Most of the extra 800 sq ft are the extra 4th bedroom (office), a 3rd bathroom, and the gameroom.

Like everyone else, I had no clue that John and Sherry had purchased a new home. They posted about their new home just a day after I posted about mine. I joked with a few friends that it wasn’t fair because they stole my thunder! I’m sure their 5-million-page-hits-a-month blog doesn’t need any of my thunder. I’m just happy they even know who I am. hah ;)

Q: Where did you get that yellow bag?

A: The yellow bag is my camera bag and it’s from an awesome company called JoTotes! It is faux leather and is so super soft and my favorite part? The inside is houndstooth.

There you have it. All your questions answered. I am determined to be a more organized blogger this house go-round. My right-brain has a hard time with organization and blog posting schedules. But I’m going to try! YHL’s consistency is so inspiring to me. Cross your fingers that I can stay on top of the projects and the blog enough to keep it coming to you real-time and consistently.

Now that I’ve shared all this stuff about the new house I’m going to pop back over to the old house and share some loose ends about prepping the house for listing, packing up, and moving, so keep an eye out for that. Also, don’t forget my weekly hookin’ up with hoh party is tomorrow night at 9:30pm CST. Be there or be square.


     
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